I am naturally a pretty reserved person and I have never been confident in my singing abilities. If I subscribe to the fixed mindset, I would claim that I was just born without the ability to sing and it’s not in the cards for me. If I subscribe to the growth mindset, I would claim my singing ability can be changed through deliberate practice and I am not a good singer...yet!
But there are two places where I am not afraid to sing:
Why church? For the most part it is a supportive environment. When we are in a supportive environment we feel the freedom to give it our best shot without someone criticizing us. Now occasionally you may get a stare for off-key singing at church. And all it takes is that one look to bring us back down (the funny thing is that person may not even be paying attention to our singing but we are assuming that based on our perception).
But that is why the best place for me to sing is while I am driving in the car by myself. I will crank the radio up and belt out some great notes. And no one is there to hear me...except God.
And he loves it. But that love has nothing to do with the sounds that I am producing. What God loves is the fact that I am giving it my best shot and having the courage to sing from my heart.
You see God doesn’t care about results...he wants our best.
God doesn’t care if we win or lose...he wants us to live a life of courage and bring out the best of what he created.
Some of you may be reading this thinking I am completely wrong...and you may be right.
But I am not concerned with the results. I am concerned with speaking from my heart and living with courage.
According to Les Brown, “Life is God’s gift to us and how we live our lives is our gift to God. What kind of gift are we giving?”
John Wooden and others believed that winning is a by-product of doing things the right way and giving your best. And I agree. But if we are only doing those things a certain way because they will get us to a destination, and not because we are doing them from our heart, it is not sustainable.
Because what happens when the possibility of reaching that destination is taken away? If there is no chance to get to the destination, then there is no motivation to do things the right way.
We find out a lot about people when the end result that they want is taken away and see how they react and act toward others.
When we lose or things are not going our way and we are pouting, we are not giving our best.
And everyone deserves our best. Out teammates, players and coaches deserve our best. Our friends deserve our best. Our co-workers deserve our best. Our families deserve our best.
God deserves our best!
Confidence does not come from winning or getting positive results...confidence comes from knowing that the results can never change your worth as a person and that what the world needs is your best self.
The world is not getting better by us playing small. So go for a drive in your car by yourself and let it go. Then get out of the car and life your life that way!
“A bird does not sing because it has an answer. It sings because it has a song.”
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